The Five of Us, Spring 2014

The Five of Us, Spring 2014

The Place of Patience

As the days pass by so quickly, as I look at Punk and Pea growing and growing, as I think about registering Pea for Kindergarten in the coming weeks, I feel increasing pressure to get "my baby" home NOW. I also feel strong temptation to change the game plan, explore other options--international adoption or foster to adopt or adopting through the state--options we've considered and considered again and opted against.

There are several reasons we've chosen domestic infant adoption, and those reasons still stand. First of all, we really want to have relationship with the first family. I miss that terribly for Pea and wonder when it will become an "issue" for her. We really want this new family member to have the opportunity to know and understand his roots. And, while we are confident that God will fill in the gaps in Pea's life, we also believe that being related to a birthmom through our second adoption will be a part of her healing. The other thing is that I just want to do the baby thing one more time. I loved, loved, loved experiencing the first year of Punk's life and I miss that we didn't have that with Pea. I miss it more than I thought I would. There are other issues with international adoption being expensive and difficult, but the fact that we would miss out on the beginning of our child's life and be unable to keep up with his first family are more weighty reasons.

So, I was thinking through all this again today, driving home from the grocery store, telling God how important it is that He brings this baby to us sooner than later. Reminding Him that the age gap is just getting wider by the day. Asking Him whether we should look at other options. That's when I remembered we'd been through the other options already. I felt Him gently say, "You wouldn't be satisfied." Yes, that's true. I wouldn't. "Are you willing to wait? If you do, I promise you will be more than satisfied." Oh, yes. How could I forget that about You! How could I forget that He is working it all together in just the right way. He has that birth family that will be part of the fulfillment of our family. He has that baby whose babyhood I will tenderly cherish. He's working out the scenario that will more than satisfy the desires of my heart. If I'll just be patient.

1 comments:

DeniseinSC said...

Praying for you...waiting with you! God will deliver! :) Denise

My Man and Me

My Man and Me
married 7/7/2001

Punk

Punk
ours through biology, born 7/25/2004, home 8/1/2004

Pea

Pea
ours through adoption from Liberia, West Africa, born 7/15/2005, home 10/25/2007

Pup

Pup
ours through domestic adoption, born 1/15/2011, home 2/10/2011, final 8/3/2011

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Round Two Timeline

  • 9/24/08 Home study update home visit for Ghana adoption
  • 10/15/08 Dossier sent to AOHG
  • 10/15/08 I600A application sent to USCIS
  • 10/30/08 First heard about possible domestic private adoption
  • 11/18/08 Last spoke with contact about possible domestic adoption; expected to hear back about meeting with birthmother
  • 12/3/08 Withdrew application from AOHG
  • 1/6/09 Found out another family had been chosen for possible domestic adoption
  • 1/21/09 USCIS fingerprinting appointment
  • 1/8/09 Received USCIS fingerprinting appointment notice
  • 4/11/09 Sent Pre-Application to Covenant Care Adoptions for Domestic Infant Adoption program
  • 6/8/09 Social worker visit to update home study from International to Domestic
  • 7/24/09 Received completed home study update
  • 8/25/09 Went "on the list" for birthfamilies to choose from
  • 4/28/10 Found out a birth mom had chosen us
  • 5/8/10 Met the birth mom
  • 5/11/10 Got the call that birth mom changed her mind
  • 5/19/10 Birth mom's scheduled c-section
  • 11/30/10 Visit from DSS sw about foster parenting
  • 11/30/10 Got the call that another birth mom had chosen us
  • 12/21/10 Met with the birth mom
  • 1/15/11 @1:42 PM BB was born!
  • 1/19/11 ICPC (interstate) paperwork sent to GA for approval
  • 1/31/11 ICPC Clearance Approved
  • 2/10/11 Placement Ceremony and Pup comes home!!!!
  • 8/3/11 It's Official! Pup's Adoption Decree was issued