The Five of Us, Spring 2014

The Five of Us, Spring 2014

World AIDS Orphans Day

So, according to FXB International (, today is World AIDS Orphans Day. I think it was last week that I came across a banner about WAOD on another site. I haven't researched much about either WAOD or FXBI, nor had I heard about either before that. But, I have a very visceral response to these things. You see, both of Pence's parents died from complications of AIDS. Even before he entered our lives, the AIDS pandemic sickened me, but now it is painful as well as sickening to hear how AIDS is stealing away the lives of an entire generation and leaving the next generation orphaned.

So, whether "World AIDS Orphans Day" is legit or not, or somewhere between, I feel a need to do something today. I just don't know what. For all that I consider myself an advocate, I'm just at a loss today.

If you're considering adoption, or looking for a child to adopt, check out They are an organization dedicated to finding families for HIV+ children (fortunately only 25-40% of babies born to HIV+ moms contract the virus from them, but with somewhere between 15 and 100 million children orphaned by AIDS, 25% turns out to be huge numbers of actual children) and they have a waiting child list on their website. Perhaps your child(ren?!) are waiting for you there. Medications are common in the US which control HIV to such an extent that the virus is undetectable in the blood and people with treated HIV have a normal life-span. It's not difficult or scary or even expensive (with grants, etc) to raise a child with HIV. If you want to know more, comment or email me (my address is in the sidebar) and I'll point you to a slew of great resources.

I'm sorry if this post is scattered. I'm just typing with my heart more than my mind. I'm not even sure what to say, much less what to do. I'll be back if a stoke of brilliancy hits me.


My Man and Me

My Man and Me
married 7/7/2001


ours through biology, born 7/25/2004, home 8/1/2004


ours through adoption from Liberia, West Africa, born 7/15/2005, home 10/25/2007


ours through domestic adoption, born 1/15/2011, home 2/10/2011, final 8/3/2011

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Round Two Timeline

  • 9/24/08 Home study update home visit for Ghana adoption
  • 10/15/08 Dossier sent to AOHG
  • 10/15/08 I600A application sent to USCIS
  • 10/30/08 First heard about possible domestic private adoption
  • 11/18/08 Last spoke with contact about possible domestic adoption; expected to hear back about meeting with birthmother
  • 12/3/08 Withdrew application from AOHG
  • 1/6/09 Found out another family had been chosen for possible domestic adoption
  • 1/21/09 USCIS fingerprinting appointment
  • 1/8/09 Received USCIS fingerprinting appointment notice
  • 4/11/09 Sent Pre-Application to Covenant Care Adoptions for Domestic Infant Adoption program
  • 6/8/09 Social worker visit to update home study from International to Domestic
  • 7/24/09 Received completed home study update
  • 8/25/09 Went "on the list" for birthfamilies to choose from
  • 4/28/10 Found out a birth mom had chosen us
  • 5/8/10 Met the birth mom
  • 5/11/10 Got the call that birth mom changed her mind
  • 5/19/10 Birth mom's scheduled c-section
  • 11/30/10 Visit from DSS sw about foster parenting
  • 11/30/10 Got the call that another birth mom had chosen us
  • 12/21/10 Met with the birth mom
  • 1/15/11 @1:42 PM BB was born!
  • 1/19/11 ICPC (interstate) paperwork sent to GA for approval
  • 1/31/11 ICPC Clearance Approved
  • 2/10/11 Placement Ceremony and Pup comes home!!!!
  • 8/3/11 It's Official! Pup's Adoption Decree was issued