The Five of Us, Spring 2014

The Five of Us, Spring 2014

Disclaimer/Boundaries

Punk's doing better today. Whew! Thanks for the e-hugs, kind words, and prayers. And, Aaron should be here in a few hours! Yipppeee! He'll be getting one heck of a kiss when he shows up! :)

So, my e-friends and stalkers, I'm a little nervous about keeping healthy boundaries between my job with AOH and my personal thoughts, beliefs, experiences and opinions expressed here on the blog, since many of you "know" me through AOH. I'm kinda worried about continuing the blog at all and I'm considering how to handle my "open book" writing style from here on out. The thing is, I am not AOH and I don't speak for AOH on this blog, but I do serve AOH and represent the organization, even "off the clock." I know it's difficult to keep things separated that are so closely intertwined, but I need for you, my readership of 3, to help me out by recognizing and honoring the difference.

You can help me out by remembering every time you pop in here that this is my personal blog about my own family and experiences and that my adoption(s) do not represent what is typical or average or to be expected from AOH. I have chosen some very unique cases and no one should read this blog and think their experience will be anything like mine!

Also, please do not interpret my opinions or experiences as AOH policies. I started my adoption process through AOH with my application in April of 2006. A lot has changed in Liberia and for AOH during that time. Just because you read something here (in the archives or even in the future) does not mean it is AOH policy.

You can also respect the difference by contacting me through the office phone and email about your personal adoptions or with general adoption questions. I will not field questions about AOH specifically or generally here on my blog. I will only be putting up photos and information about my own sweet family, so please do not inquire about anything outside of those boundaries.

Also, the email in the sidebar is personal. I put it there because I want my blog to be a point of connection for friendship. I will not respond to AOH-specific emails that are sent to that address. In fact, I will delete them. Again, please use the office email and phone.

One last thing you can do to help me out here is to take me seriously when I repeat these thoughts in other posts. I can foresee myself restating, "This is not an AOH policy or belief" many times throughout the future of this blog. Please do not "blow me off" when I say that.

Okay, enough of that. I'll be more fun next time! :)

9 comments:

fully operational battle station said...

Keep the blog. PLEASE! But good for you for laying out some disclaimers.

BTW, Anita still blogs even though she heads up the Ghana program for AAI now.....

Jamie

Denise Nelson said...

Yes, ma'am! We hear and obey! (My eldest son is in ROTC--some military humor). We will definitely contact you in regards to our adoption and ot through your blog. Please continue to post!

Denise and all in MI

Tarah said...

I will only e-mail you very IMPORTANT questions... like 2 days ago! Missing you rae- since you fell asleep the last time I saw you I feel we never got a real goodbye. hmmmm, you need to come back for a hug and a good teary goodbye. :P

Alward Family said...

Disclaimer is duly noted. But keep up the blogging.

Christine

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Scott and Katy said...

Thanks for stating these boundaries... I agree with you that they are very important and I pray we will all respect them!

I do, however, also agree that you should keep your blog. I believe it is important for you to be able to post your adoption journey so we can rejoice, cry and pray with you!!!

Love,
Katy

Donna Barber said...

ok-ok-ok- I get it! I cant ask you anything! ha!! Welcome! And yes keep up your blog because you are first and formost an adoptive parent and yes you happen to work for AOH.

amber said...

Aye, Aye! You got it! A CLEAR line between personal and business correspondence has now been drawn!! :)
Amber

Tasha said...

Dang... I feel like now I have to come forward since you mentioned the word 'lurker.' I'm a lurker, not a commentator. This will be my first comment.

You should absolutely keep the blog!! I am learning so much about your personal journey. The fact that you work for an agency is a non-issue. I've stopped going onto the Yahoo groups for adoption because of so much misinformation, etc. It's the responsibility of the parents to be in contact with their agency to know of the latest information, updates, etc. Blogging is for personal journeys adn that is what yours reflect. Keep up the good work!

My Man and Me

My Man and Me
married 7/7/2001

Punk

Punk
ours through biology, born 7/25/2004, home 8/1/2004

Pea

Pea
ours through adoption from Liberia, West Africa, born 7/15/2005, home 10/25/2007

Pup

Pup
ours through domestic adoption, born 1/15/2011, home 2/10/2011, final 8/3/2011

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Round Two Timeline

  • 9/24/08 Home study update home visit for Ghana adoption
  • 10/15/08 Dossier sent to AOHG
  • 10/15/08 I600A application sent to USCIS
  • 10/30/08 First heard about possible domestic private adoption
  • 11/18/08 Last spoke with contact about possible domestic adoption; expected to hear back about meeting with birthmother
  • 12/3/08 Withdrew application from AOHG
  • 1/6/09 Found out another family had been chosen for possible domestic adoption
  • 1/21/09 USCIS fingerprinting appointment
  • 1/8/09 Received USCIS fingerprinting appointment notice
  • 4/11/09 Sent Pre-Application to Covenant Care Adoptions for Domestic Infant Adoption program
  • 6/8/09 Social worker visit to update home study from International to Domestic
  • 7/24/09 Received completed home study update
  • 8/25/09 Went "on the list" for birthfamilies to choose from
  • 4/28/10 Found out a birth mom had chosen us
  • 5/8/10 Met the birth mom
  • 5/11/10 Got the call that birth mom changed her mind
  • 5/19/10 Birth mom's scheduled c-section
  • 11/30/10 Visit from DSS sw about foster parenting
  • 11/30/10 Got the call that another birth mom had chosen us
  • 12/21/10 Met with the birth mom
  • 1/15/11 @1:42 PM BB was born!
  • 1/19/11 ICPC (interstate) paperwork sent to GA for approval
  • 1/31/11 ICPC Clearance Approved
  • 2/10/11 Placement Ceremony and Pup comes home!!!!
  • 8/3/11 It's Official! Pup's Adoption Decree was issued