The Five of Us, Spring 2014

The Five of Us, Spring 2014

Holding

I told Aaron last night that since we've been in holding pattern with Pence for so long, it sort of feels like a permanent state now. It isn't that I've lost hope or even really the expectation that he'll come home. It's that I've lost the hope and expectation that he'll come home SOON. When Patty and Donna get back from their 3 weeks in Liberia in mid-March we'll have a clearer picture of what to expect and I think I'm just hanging on til then. Then I'll know what to anticipate. Then I can start planning for his homecoming. Then, then, then. Hmmm. I think I need to speak with God and get his perspective again. I don't think He's waiting for mid-March!

I also told Aaron last night that I feel a need to draw up a list of all the things we need to do before Pence and Pea come home--acquire carseats/boosters, clean out the "spare" room (will be the boys' room), get boosters for the kitchen table, purchase two new wardrobes, etc. I think that might also shake me out of the holding pattern. :) (But, I'll talk to God first!)

I walked into Punk's room earlier this morning to get Bear out of his crib for him. An overwhelming desire for a coat of pretty pink or lavendar paint washed over me. What will Aaron think?! We had discussed leaving the nursery as is. It's a gender-neutral Noah's Ark theme with blue walls (the paint color is called "Cinderella's Ballgown" but it's not that shade at all!) and a bright yellow ceiling. When "baby girl" was an abstruse idea, it was all well and good to leave things gender neutral. Now that we "know" Pea, now that I see how beautiful she is, now that I see her delicate, feminine features, I want to fill that room with pink billows and lacey pillows! I want to fill that closet with ruffley dresses and "twirling skirts" (even though I know it will be a while before we're twirling together). I want my beauty to be surrounded by beauty!

About 9 months ago when we started all this, I kept telling everyone, "I think I'm a boys' kinda Mama." Now look at me! I'm so glad we decided Punk and Pence needed a sissy! :D

2 comments:

Nichole...aka Mia's Mommy said...

Popped over from big sis Anita's blog and just had to say your daughter is BEAUTIFUL and there is nothing wrong with a girly girly room. We have cream walls but her bedding is bright red for the contrast. If Mia wasn't legally blind we may have went more with girly things but we made it work through high school if she allows it to stay...lol. Anyway just wanted to drop you a line. I am addicted to blogs and always looking for more. And since I don't have a lot of african blogs you can be one...lol. BTW Mia is from Guatemala.

Nichole

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My Man and Me

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Punk
ours through biology, born 7/25/2004, home 8/1/2004

Pea

Pea
ours through adoption from Liberia, West Africa, born 7/15/2005, home 10/25/2007

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Pup
ours through domestic adoption, born 1/15/2011, home 2/10/2011, final 8/3/2011

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Round Two Timeline

  • 9/24/08 Home study update home visit for Ghana adoption
  • 10/15/08 Dossier sent to AOHG
  • 10/15/08 I600A application sent to USCIS
  • 10/30/08 First heard about possible domestic private adoption
  • 11/18/08 Last spoke with contact about possible domestic adoption; expected to hear back about meeting with birthmother
  • 12/3/08 Withdrew application from AOHG
  • 1/6/09 Found out another family had been chosen for possible domestic adoption
  • 1/21/09 USCIS fingerprinting appointment
  • 1/8/09 Received USCIS fingerprinting appointment notice
  • 4/11/09 Sent Pre-Application to Covenant Care Adoptions for Domestic Infant Adoption program
  • 6/8/09 Social worker visit to update home study from International to Domestic
  • 7/24/09 Received completed home study update
  • 8/25/09 Went "on the list" for birthfamilies to choose from
  • 4/28/10 Found out a birth mom had chosen us
  • 5/8/10 Met the birth mom
  • 5/11/10 Got the call that birth mom changed her mind
  • 5/19/10 Birth mom's scheduled c-section
  • 11/30/10 Visit from DSS sw about foster parenting
  • 11/30/10 Got the call that another birth mom had chosen us
  • 12/21/10 Met with the birth mom
  • 1/15/11 @1:42 PM BB was born!
  • 1/19/11 ICPC (interstate) paperwork sent to GA for approval
  • 1/31/11 ICPC Clearance Approved
  • 2/10/11 Placement Ceremony and Pup comes home!!!!
  • 8/3/11 It's Official! Pup's Adoption Decree was issued